The moon, like a mirror, reflects the light of the sun. Its reflection is most brilliant when it stands opposite the sun in its fullness, unobstructed by the shadow of the earth. Similarly, your work-life reflects your brilliance or your Projection Dilemma shadow, which blocks it.
For instance, if someone’s directness upsets you, they might be reflecting your discomfort with being direct yourself. If someone inspires you and makes you feel happy, they are mirroring your own goodness, which you might not be acknowledging.
Someone once said to me, “if you can spot it, you’ve got it” to help me understand that my work-life is a mirror. When I notice the shortcomings of others, I am usually unhappy with myself or my work-life (Projection, Inc. CEO perspectives) and, when I see the best in others or their shortcomings don’t bother me, I am usually feeling good about myself and my work-life (Me, Inc. CEO perspectives).
Me, Inc. CEOs know they are looking in a mirror reflecting their brilliance or shadow when they observe the behavior of others. Masters of a Me, Inc. CEO position are grateful for negative as well as positive reflections because they know it is only information. Then, they use the information to upgrade their Projection Dilemma patterns.
You begin to upgrade your Projection Dilemma patterns by managing Your emotions and practicing effective communication skills.
Manage your Emotions
1. Breathe slowly and deeply.
2. Put your tongue on the roof of your mouth.
4. Take a time out.
5. Write, talk with a mentor or professional, or exercise to get your emotions out and clarify your perspective and your contribution to the challenge.
Practice Effective Communication Skills
1. Listen deeply and with authentic desire to understand.
2. Use empathic statements like “I would be upset too.”
3. Ask open-ended questions.
4. Use facts rather than expressing opinions.
5. Adapt to the other person’s communication style.
If your discomfort with or the behaviors of others continue to reflect the possibility that there is something you are thinking, saying or doing, outside your conscious awareness, that is contributing to less than optimal interactions with others, read Design and Live the Life You Love: A Guide for Living in Your Power and Fulfilling Your Purpose to learn more about the Projection Dilemma and how to shift into a more loving perspective. Or, you could contact me for tailored guidance on how to shift your unconscious pattern.
Your work-life is a mirror. It reflects all the information you need for undoing the Projection Dilemma and going your Me, Inc. CEO way.
What is your internal or external customer, your spouse or child reflecting about you today?