A ten year old arrived for her session with her new bicycle, sale tags still on it. She was so excited. The challenge was that she hadn’t yet learned how to ride a bike.
Occasionally, I use Mind-Body Coaching to help children with learning challenges. If by 10 years old, a child cannot balance for bicycle riding, there will be other issues like self-esteem, self-trust, hearing and understanding accurately, breathing and coordination issues and more. This child had self-trust among other issues. The self-trust showed up in comments like, “What if I fall and break my head?” and “I’m not getting it!” after only attempting to ride once.
These thought habits, learned when something happened between 5 and 7, are a contributing factor, which has prevented her from learning to ride and would continue to limit her potential throughout life had she given up learning to ride and not received professional assistance.
When we finished the session, I gave her some coaching and walked along side her as she got on the bike, holding my hand by the seat in case she needed steadying. It was interesting to see her stop herself when the bike started to move faster. Her parent noticed that her child’s fear was gone as she attempted riding. Breaking the flow was just a habit formed in earlier attempts.
How often do you get started on something and then stop before you give it enough of a chance?
How often do you think the worst of people or opportunities?
How often does your inner critic keep you from what would bring you joy?
You have been shaped by your conditioning, as this child has been. Like her, you can unlearn and relearn. Whenever your inner doomsayer or the dream-busters in your life make comments that push your buttons because they doubt or put down your desires, you give your power to your ego.
I invite you to live in your Power.
Like the child that is intent on learning to ride, so she can participate with her friends and be more independent, you can change the habits you have formed and the self-talk you have adopted.
Before finishing her session, she was able to have a couple brief moments of feeling the freedom of balancing on her own. Then, I left her alone to have a conversation with her parent. Five minutes later she shouted, “I did it!” It was so thrilling to see her ride on her own and to experience her excitement.
As adults, we can reclaim that child-like innocence, joy and desire to engage life to the fullest. It can seem magical how connections are made, opportunities arise, unexpected blessings show up and more when you say “No” to your ego and “Yes” to your Power.
It is not magical, it is how life works when your thinking is aligned with your Higher Wisdom Self.
In the words of the Buddha, “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
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